Anonymous asked: It bothers me that people are so worked up about this. We (ladies) complain about men who don't know what they're up to when they go down on us- the same applies to us wrapping our lips around a dick. Willingness to do so doesn't magically guarantee skill.
I hadn’t really considered the flip side there, but you’re absolutely right. This kind of stuff goes both ways, and the end result is the same - if you’re not telling your partner where they could do better, they’re gonna think they’re amazing at it, and you’re not doing you or them any favors in allowing them to keep thinking that.
Let them know all the ways they ARE amazing, and let them know that in this one thing, ehhh, maybe a little work is in order. It’s not a horrible thing to say to a person.
Anonymous asked: so wait. if i've always had compliments are they all lying?
No, not necessarily. There are undoubtedly things they did like, and I don’t even doubt that they enjoyed themselves.
I’m not trying to imply that every girl (or guys who are into it) should be able to give a perfect blowjob, either, just for the record (you didn’t say it, but there’s a dozen messages like this in my inbox right now and in this part I’m speaking to them). What I’m trying to say is “I’ve had no complaints” isn’t really a good thing.
If your exam answers in school were never checked over, would you know when you were wrong? Or where you needed improvement? Of course not. You’d sail through life blissfully unaware that there was anything more out there for you to work on or achieve.
Anonymous asked: You know, you would have angered some people with that comment, insensitive as it sounds that is the god honest truth; my ex girlfriend was awful at first, i taught her how, and then she got great at it, simple; criticism is necessary
Agreed. I’ve never met a girl who was so wildly incapable that she couldn’t be taught, although I can picture it in my mind like one of those POV porn videos.
Looking down, and she’s all fingernails and teeth, and pulling her mouth all the way off at the top of every single stroke, mouth formed in that exaggerated O, and then she misses going back down on one of them and bends the cock sideways with her cheekbone and the hairy man legs on either side of her jerk up involuntarily. She probably catches an accidental knee to the ribs. Yakety Sax is playing in the background for some reason.
She should just put the dick down, maybe try anal training next time instead.
Anonymous asked: So you're saying that if you haven't had multiple partners and you've only every been with one person (let's just say a long relationship with one person) that you're obviously going to suck at oral sex?
Is that what I said? At all? At any point?
Maybe you’d like to read it again. Go do that instead of bothering me with shit I didn’t type, or even imply. I don’t need you pinning your insecurities about how your virgin girlfriend stacks up against the crowd on me.
Anonymous asked: Ummm, you're an idiot if that little comment got you so riled up. Cocksucking THAT important to you/??? You need a fucking life. Oh, and by the way, my girl was a virgin, my cock IS the only cock that has passed through her lips, you pathetic little man...
But I HAVE never had any complaints!…
Which seems more likely then? That every guy has been too afraid of offending you that he’s simply been quiet about it, or that into every generation, there is a chosen one. One girl in all the world. She alone will wield the strength and skill to stand against the dick, the balls, and the forces of lust; To stop the spread of their evil and the swell of their cocks. She is the CockSlayer. And that you are that one girl?
I heard the above statement in the hallway today and it got me so fired up that I had to come home and comment.
Listen, if you’ve literally never had any complaints about your cocksucking technique, let me break something to you - you’re probably terrible at it. Don’t worry, there’s hope, but it starts with accepting that even though most guys have shot off in your mouth within a few minutes, it might just be that they’re so overwhelmingly excited to have managed to get their dick in someone’s mouth that they can’t contain themselves.
It’s not your fault, though, and I do honestly, 100% mean that. You’ve never been told about anything you could be doing better. You have no idea that there’s more to it than bouncing your lips up and down the first two inches of a cock and trying (most of the time) to keep your teeth off it. You know whose fault this is? Men’s.
Guys, I’m gonna be straight up here - ever girl who has ever sucked my dick has sucked someone else’s first. I know that it’s always super awesome to get your dick in a new person’s mouth, I totally get it, I was 16 once upon a time too. It’s just that in your desperate and painfully obvious desire to one day get a repeat performance, you’re giving them the impression that they’re a major league cocksucker when really they haven’t made an inch of progress since they were playing JV.
Be good about it, be gentle with your criticisms, be kind about it especially, but be honest about it. You don’t have to believe in karma to understand how this kind of thing comes back around.